Who wears boutonnieres and corsages at a wedding?
A quick, role-by-role guide to who traditionally wears a boutonniere or corsage, which form fits the outfit, who buys it, and where it goes — then build a copyable florist order list for your whole party.
Who wears what, by role
| Wedding role | Traditional flower | Worn where | Typically wears one? |
|---|---|---|---|
| Groom | Boutonniere | left lapel | Yes |
| Groomsmen | Boutonniere | left lapel | Yes |
| Mother of the bride | Corsage | wrist or left chest | Yes |
| Mother of the groom | Corsage | wrist or left chest | Yes |
| Father of the bride | Boutonniere | left lapel | Yes |
| Father of the groom | Boutonniere | left lapel | Yes |
| Grandmother | Corsage | wrist or left chest | Yes |
| Grandfather | Boutonniere | left lapel | Yes |
| Officiant | Boutonniere or corsage | lapel or wrist | Optional |
| Ring bearer | Boutonniere (mini) | left lapel | Yes |
| Usher or greeter | Boutonniere or corsage | lapel or wrist | Yes |
| Ceremony reader | Boutonniere or corsage (optional) | lapel or wrist | Optional |
These are common conventions. Modern weddings treat them as flexible — honor the person and the outfit, and ask each recipient what they'd prefer.
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How to use this
Open any role for the etiquette details, the alternatives (wrist corsage, pocket-square boutonniere, or none), and a copyable florist note. The flower list builder totals your pieces and writes one order note your florist can work from — the part a generic answer can't do for your specific wedding party.
Guidance reflects common US wedding norms synthesized from The Knot and a 2026 florist guide, not authoritative rules. Etiquette is increasingly flexible: ask each recipient their preference and confirm with your florist.